If your child is fortunate enough to attend a day or sleep away camp, you know how special that time is for them. Visiting day is one of the highlights of the summer, but navigating it as a divorced family, as with other special events, takes planning.
Custody Agreements
If you have a custody agreement that stipulates who will go to camp on visiting day, you need to follow the agreement. You won’t be the only parents in this situation. Camps will accommodate another day for you or your ex-spouse to visit with your child. Your child should know ahead of time who will be attending Visiting Day so there are no surprises. When both parents do not go to the primary Visiting Day, it is common to alternate which parent will attend, with one attending in “even” numbered years and the other attending in “odd” numbered years.
Visiting Day Together
If you and your ex-spouse will both be attending the same Visiting Day, make sure your child is accustomed to having the two of you in the same place at the same time. You don’t want this to be the first time you are all together in a while, creating a tense and uncomfortable environment for your child.
If you and your ex have agreed to attend Visiting Day together, there are things you can do ahead of time to ensure the day goes smoothly. The most important thing is ensuring the day is about your child. The focus should be on them and what they want to do. You should avoid any conflict or tension that could detract from their enjoyment of their time with you at camp. Make sure your child knows before they leave for camp that you will both be there.
Remember, your presence and involvement matter most to your child. If you have questions about your custody agreement or how to handle special events, such as Visiting Day, contact an attorney.
