Vacations should be relaxing and stress-free, and just because you are divorced or going through a divorce doesn’t mean they won’t be.  A little planning and a lot of communication can ensure that you and your ex are on the same page so that your only headache might be a delayed flight or some traffic.


Get your ducks in a row.  

If you are traveling outside of the U.S., your child(ren) will need a passport.  If they are under the age of 16, they will need both parents present with them to apply for the passport. An exception would be if one parent has sole custody.  Once you have that passport, don’t lose it; there should be one parent who is dedicated to holding the passport until needed. 


Cross your Ts and dot your Is.

Exchange your itinerary in advance with your ex, or so-to-be ex. This includes everything from your flight information to your hotel, to any daily excursions you may be headed on.  You will help avoid any unnecessary phone calls or interruptions to your time with your children if everyone knows where everyone is supposed to be.


Continue to communicate.

If you will be away for an extended period of time, or longer than your child(ren) is usually away from your ex, or soon-to-be ex, you may want to consider setting up time for your child(ren) to speak with their other parent.  A quick phone call, face time or text won’t take away from your time with them.  It’s best to plan this in advance so both parents know when to expect it.  A small gesture like this goes a long way, especially for your child(ren).


In your custody agreement you should work out which parent will have your child(ren) for certain vacation times.  It is always best to consult with an attorney regarding any custody questions and to remember that everything you do should be in the best interest of your child(ren). 


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